This section is written by my crush, the refreshing-as-a-house-chardonnay-on-a-steamy-day, Bel Hawkins. You should check out more of her beautiful words here.
Hi besties! Since we last spoke, Luce and Rubes are back, which means our regular coffee phoenixing dates have resumed, and the world has a little more SHIMMER back in it (thank God). I’ve also taken up knitting, which I know sounds like an extremely cottagecore hobby (Bring back hobbies - another Chime hmmm…), BUT I think I started feeling like if the world was truly ending, I wanted more than my quill to be able to offer humanity (Lol, thinking about this further what was I thinking — I would be able to knit jumpers for the surviving population?! It’s good to dream). ANYWAY. Are you feeling bleak atm? SO many of my convos with friends are about fighting mid-20s crises, battling a sense of purposelessness, and wondering how to think about the future when people are saying things like, ‘we’re on the highway to hell with the foot on the accelerator’ in regards to climate change. My friends and I have also affectionately been calling this the ‘Age of Austerity’ because living is so PAINFULLY EXPENSIVE atm that we’re not really going out and instead hanging out at each others’ houses in hoodies drinking plunger coffee, and eating chips for dinner. Honestly? When I explain it like that I feel fucking lucky to be alive and v v grateful for the small things. But still.
I’m trying super hard for these Chimes not to read like motivational stretch canvases or neon signs like DANCE LIKE NO ONE’S WATCHING, but there are small things I’ve found that help the malaise or ways to think about it. Two freelancer friends and I met up last week (a ritual we call ‘Freelancer Therapy’, which I love v much and often ends up a lot like that scene in Notting Hill
when everyone’s fighting for the last brownie). These were our conclusions:
- Know your intangible magic. A life’s work, I know. But you have it, and make sure you keep reminding yourself of what you bring to this planet. If you forget, often it’s your friends who know this the most, and they will remind you.
- Get out of your house to get out of your head.
- Stay in your house and rest.
- Have some kind of meditative practice. I like really long walks (I know this isn’t possible for everyone - some of my friends who can’t walk game or get massages or nap).
- Buy nothing you don’t need for a while.
- Do something that makes you feel free.
- Do nothing, don’t think about what everyone else is doing and don’t feel bad about it.
- Be reassured that everyone is exactly like you: an imperfect human floating around in the atmosphere, just trying to make it work.
- Lastly, my friend Simon text me this yesterday, which I loved: ‘I just want to be a grain of salt this summer’. So often, we make things complex because simplicity can feel empty, but hmmm… there’s something cute in that.
Got any other tips? Send em to me, and we’ll make a list and get through any bleakness together.
Love your presence in my life! Thanks for every inch of it xxx