This section is written by my crush, the refreshing-as-a-house-chardonnay-on-a-steamy-day, Bel Hawkins. You should check out more of her beautiful words here.
Another week moving on by means another week j'adoring being in your inboxes! As always, love reading your sweet responses, which Luce and I affectionately call our regular dopamine hit in between life’s chaoses, and love bringing you here to my softcore philosophy corner. This is a precious universe to be a part of! Thanks for letting me stay <3
Ok, so we’ve talked a lot about fun, buzzy, sometimes sad, sometimes hard stuff (I’m a sucker for vulnerability, I think it’s the best way to live), so I thought this week, while the SYSCA gals are on the road, I’d put all our words in one place. In no particular order (OK, except for the first):
Phoenixing - OK, this had to come first because it is, in my humble opinion, the word of the year. It came about after my life burning down over Christmas, spending most of summer feeling like the before photo of a home renovation show, and then meeting this crazy kind of energy we now call PHOENIXING. You can have a phoenixing era, phase, day, state of mind. It means you are soaring out of that ashen hell into something you couldn’t be otherwise. A bird set free.
Lemonied - Inspired by the books Lemony Snicket: A Series of Unfortunate Events, this word refers to those times in life when a series of things feel like they go wrong, one after the other, in quick succession. You can say, ‘I’ve just been fucking Lemonied,’ or a phrase to the same sentiment. Often the precursor to Phoenixing.
There were all those dating terms, but I think my favourite is baiting - which is consciously posting content online you know your crush (most common) /ex/nemesis will see to get a rise/response/attention from. I love it because we know we’re doing it, don’t often admit to it, and do it anyway. Worth interrogating why next time you do! What’s meant for you won’t pass you by <3
Titanicing - The quick side story on this one is when I was like, nine, my family’s house caught on fire, and we had to live with friends for a while as it was being rebuilt. During that time, my friend and I became obsessed with watching the Titanic and thus, my love for it has never waned. To titanic (verb) means you’re slipping downhill very quickly. Like, 3pm on the work day, and you’ve lost all energy. Or out on a Saturday and you want to go home very immediately. Or, on a more serious note, the opposite of phoenixing. Titanicing must be met with an action plan for full resurrection :)
Irishing - Ok ok ok, A LOT of you came back with some gorge alt suggestions for this (Irish Goodbyeing - leaving a party and not telling anyone). I think my favourite was Houdining BUT I also loved how many gorge Irish people who messaged us saying how friendly and adoring you are as a culture. The SYSCA gals use Irishing for short, and we love you Ireland, and if we get to do a world tour, you know where we’re coming.
Glass ceilinged - Used to describe shitty things that are happening at work because you’re a woman. We will shatter this goddam thing, together.
Cocooning - A self-caring anti-social state (or one you go into side-by-side with friends) to fill your cup back up, either on a weeknight or on weekends. Best done by telling your besties what you’re doing and in a soft pant and phone on flight mode. You know we approve. As long as you come back to us.
Pulling the clutch out - An office favourite in our world at the moment, but referring to when you had a big night out, lost all inhibition (or your spare key, in my case) and had a bloody good time. ‘No, Bel, clutch was pulled completely out, clutch is on the ground’ is a text I have definitely both sent and refused and often after a clutch pulling comes a week of entering a zen-like state of greens and the above cocooning. We try!
I love that you love these as much as we do! In the meantime, welcoming any further editions to the glossary.
Love you! Love us! Hope you enjoy! Til next week. xo
[Luce note: PLZ let me know the words you’re adding to your vocab!!! I use ‘phoenixing’ and ‘pulling the clutch out’ at LEAST once a day. Love u all & love words xx]